Most often, we don't like to consent with others. We want to be different from others; we like to feel unique and it bothers us when we find someone else who has the same interests as we do. When you say that you are weird, or different from others, you state it like you are complimenting the other person, but the truth behind the scene is that you don't want to seem same as the other person. If someone else says that they like the same kinds of food that you do, then you get defensive about the food you like. "Oh! My mom makes it a little different, she adds this and that, and that's why I like it and that's the ONLY way I like it." There is nothing wrong in liking the same kinds of foods, music, art, subjects, sports, and etc. There are so many people who like the Eiffel Tower. I like the Eiffel Tower [I have never been to Paris, but would love to one day go to Paris and see the Eiffel Tower in person]. If someone says that they like the Eiffel Tower too, it's kinda hard to get defensive about that. What would I say? "Oh! I only like the Eiffel Tower from this angle."
Why does one have so much vanity over their hobbies, preferences, and choices? There is no reason to be so narcissistic. You find that someone else has the same interest as you do, and then you lose the feeling of "uniqueness." You don't enjoy that feeling, so you try to find ways to make it seem unique, then the competition begins, and then that ends with a disagreement, which will end with an argument, just because you like the same thing that the other person likes. Instead of competing for the "most uniqueness," if they accepted it that they have similar interests and appreciated it, then they could have build upon on that. It would have further improved their abilities and expand their ideas. I guess the choice is yours - do you want to keep your feeling of uniqueness, or do you want to develop on your preferences?
