Most often, we don't like to consent with others. We want to be different from others; we like to feel unique and it bothers us when we find someone else who has the same interests as we do. When you say that you are weird, or different from others, you state it like you are complimenting the other person, but the truth behind the scene is that you don't want to seem same as the other person. If someone else says that they like the same kinds of food that you do, then you get defensive about the food you like. "Oh! My mom makes it a little different, she adds this and that, and that's why I like it and that's the ONLY way I like it." There is nothing wrong in liking the same kinds of foods, music, art, subjects, sports, and etc. There are so many people who like the Eiffel Tower. I like the Eiffel Tower [I have never been to Paris, but would love to one day go to Paris and see the Eiffel Tower in person]. If someone says that they like the Eiffel Tower too, it's kinda hard to get defensive about that. What would I say? "Oh! I only like the Eiffel Tower from this angle."
Why does one have so much vanity over their hobbies, preferences, and choices? There is no reason to be so narcissistic. You find that someone else has the same interest as you do, and then you lose the feeling of "uniqueness." You don't enjoy that feeling, so you try to find ways to make it seem unique, then the competition begins, and then that ends with a disagreement, which will end with an argument, just because you like the same thing that the other person likes. Instead of competing for the "most uniqueness," if they accepted it that they have similar interests and appreciated it, then they could have build upon on that. It would have further improved their abilities and expand their ideas. I guess the choice is yours - do you want to keep your feeling of uniqueness, or do you want to develop on your preferences?
I like!!! Why do I like to be different??
ReplyDeleteMaybe because everyone wants to make an impression on the world!!
Maybe because their parents force the children to be different!! Maybe because each parent wants their child to be better than the other (well maybe not all) but mostly all parents want the best for their child!
That deals with how it affects the parent when "their" child does bad! They don’t like to consider the fact that child’s was the the lowest of the low!
Sadly parents don’t understand that for a child (5+ years) to learn and overcome their issues is through learning it by themselves but to support them when they need you to be their like a sports team (football, soccer, basketball, debate, etc.)! The parents are like the psychological supporters that will provide for their children emotionally when they feel down or when they are happy and question them on how they did what they did! Did they put in all the effort they could!
This allows the child to learn to be independent and it will help the child recognize that they can do whatever within limits of their ability or even exceed it! And this process allows the child to recognize that it is ok the make mistakes and have problems that might not be able to solve! And being there when the child is having a problem makes a great impact on them! :)
WOW I WROTE A LOT!! SORRY FOR BORING ANYONE! :/
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ReplyDeleteVery insightful post...We come across so many people that are like this....and I don't think that their desire to feel like they're unique is wrong...it's especially a fad in America to be different...it's encouraged by people (but only when it becomes a hit or something) I only say that because we do see a lot of ideas and things that are discouraged because they're "weird". Yeah but getting back to the people that want to feel unique...yup, so they're not to blame for wanting to feel special....but they don't have to be so defensive about it, I think they should learn to accept it, that other people may like the same things as them...there are so many other aspects that are different about them anyway, just because another person likes the same food as them doesn't mean it makes them any less special. If that were so, Bill Gates must feel very not-special because he likes Pizza with mushrooms, just like me! lol
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